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Holmes’ Significant Life Events Scale rates the loss of your spouse at 100! I can tell you that is about right. I suffered behind the loss of my precious husband. I do not want you to suffer for one minute longer!!! One of the things I did to help with that grief and loss was to write this book Stand In Your Anointment – This Too Shall Pass!!! Available on Amazon! There is helpful information in there. Please let me help you!! Check our my website too!! Helpful information is there http://www.victoryroadwellnesscenter.com. Louise
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I’ve been through a lot in my 63 years on Earth. I had my first wife literally disappear off the planet while trying to join me. That was 1974 and I still don’t know what happened.
I had my 2nd wife roll over in bed one morning to inform me that she was sleeping with two different men & wanted a divorce so she could marry one of them. Shocks like this are very difficult on your personal esteem. So is losing your job from a layoff. There’s little consolation when you learn 10,000 others at McDonnell in St Louis got that same pink slip. You lose your job of 13 years, your wife of 9 years, your house and last but not least your vehicle to repossession, all in one week & see what that does to your head.
Still, here I am, 30 years later, taking one day at a time and content to live alone in retirement. I’m living proof that you can live through heartache and disaster in your life. 🙂
Bob, you are living proof that life goes on! Each of us handles situations much differently but they are all very physically and emotionally draining. Had no clue of so many personal experiences in your life since we have known each other only a short while in this virtual world of ours…right now I feel a personal silence and am sending you a huge cyber hug!
Thanks for the hug. I made it through because on September 19, 1979 I gave my life to Jesus. He took away my cross as He saved me. I couldn’t bare the pain by myself.
He always comes through even in the worst of times! We just have to let go and let God!
I am not planning to need this particular help again real soon. Made it through the first time, next time I can’t even think about. We shall have to die by simultaneous spontaneous combustion. We agreed. No other options. Hope you are off stand-by and getting actual help. I’ll write.
One day at a time, my friend, that is you and I! Got your message and replied with some shocking but GOOD news. Hope you have a great evening!
I really love today’s posting. I went through the passing of my darling husband about 16 months ago and was devastated. At the time I had a beautiful new grandson who helped me so much to transition. Also, my book was published and I had many decisions to make. I know that none of this made the grief disappear, but staying busy helped to mitigate some of the pain. God seems to know what we will need in times of crises even if we don’t. My husband bought me the publishing package for Christmas in 2010, and neither one of us knew how important that would become in my life. My one regret is that my husband never got to see the finished book.
Mary Firmin, author of Deadly Pleasures
Mary, how sad and wonderful at the same time! It is difficult to know what to say about the loss of a loved one…that pain just doesn’t go away. Cyber hug to you with thoughts of silent peace for you as you venture ahead. I am sure he is watching:>)
My heart breaks for all your losses. I know a bit of that pain, having lost my wonderful teenage daughter Noelle by a DWI vehicular homicde. Only the fact that I had five other kids who needed me, pulled me back to the living. That was many years ago but I am still keeping my deathbed promise to Noelle by tirelessly promoting a funny, poignant sad memoir –a celebration of her life rather than a eulogy of her death. That more than anything–like with Mary gave me something to keep me working and moving forward. Many say I should let her go and stop this but I don’t ever want to forget her and I will promote her in short stories and books for as long as I breathe.
What beautiful and poignant posts which all show the indomitable resiliency of the human spirit. Sending all of you Huge Hugs!